Single, Dating, Engaged, Married - Ben Stuart
Navigating the Four Critical Seasons of Relationship
The vast majority of young people will still pass through the key phases of singleness, dating, engagement and marriage in their twenties. Yet they are delaying marriage longer than any generation in human history. Why?
For the first time in history, the average age for an American woman having her first child, 26, is younger than the average age of her first marriage, 27. More children than ever are growing up in fatherless homes, despite the overwhelming evidence that in every measurable way this is bad for the child. The Center for Disease Control also recently reported a dramatic rise in sexually transmitted disease nationwide. In Rhode Island alone, since the onset of online dating, reported cases of Syphilis has risen 79%, and HIV has increased by 33%. Though many young people can avoid early pregnancy and STDS, most cannot dodge the depression and feelings of isolation that characterize this modern generation. Studies show a dramatic rise in self-reported loneliness among the young. All of our technological connectivity has not made us feel more connected. In many ways, the very screens that are meant to link us to others have become shields blocking us from the deep intimacy we crave. Many have discovered that where there is a lack of intimacy, addiction often rises to take its place. How can a young person navigate such troubled waters? Is there hope out there?
Like a sailor on turbulent seas, we need to look up and see the North Star: the fixed points in the sky whereby we might navigate the objective realities in life. We need the skill-set to know how to journey through life and how to select the right people to journey alongside. In this book we will chart a course through the four relational phases that the vast majority of human beings on the planet will pass through in their twenties: singleness, dating, engaged and married. In each of these phases, we will look at what eternal purposes should be pursued in each stage, and how to pursue them.
Our desires for intimacy are powerful. This power can be constructive or destructive. Our satisfaction and our safety will be ensured if we can aim these powerful desires toward divine purposes.
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This was one of the best books I have ever read and I’ve gone back and re-read it countless times over. Ben is such an amazing leader and does an amazing job conveying the principles he is teaching. Not only did he make them easy to understand but he also helped to illustrate the severity of certain problems and missteps. I’m 19 and this book has probably saved me from a lot of heartache. Not to mention, it helped my relationship with God grow so incredibly much I can’t explain it other than to say the Holy Spirit was a part of the process. That being said, Ben has inspired me to help my generation to date smarter and better. I hope to use this information that God blessed me with and use it to help others through their dating struggles. I will be giving this book to as many friends as possible!
How I loved this book! After listening to Ben's Breakaway series on single,dating, etc, I was excited for this book for the younger generation. It gives a wonderful picture of life in Christ and how to walk whether single, dating, engaged or married. It paints a holy picture of all stages of relationship and of all relationships! I've given this book to my adult children and as gifts to graduates. I can't recommend it enough :D
I loved this book so much! It so much more than a book about dating relationships but rather your relationship with God! Every time I've picked it up, I'm amazing at what I'm reading. 10\10 would recommend!
I bought 2 books to give to each of my children (ages 20 and 23) for Christmas and decided to get one for myself also so I know what I'm giving them. I' reading the book right now and just finished the "Dating" section. I'm amazed at how much I can relate to this book! At 57 years old and a 40-yr old Christian, I feel like a young person hearing and reading about love, relationships and intimacy for the very first time. A lot of what Ben talks about I've read and heard from the Bible and many sermons in the past but this book makes them come alive in an incredibly vivid way! I can feel Ben's emotions in his personal stories and the way he talks about his wife is how I want to see my future relationship. I've been talking about this book and everyone I mention it to says they'd like a copy so I'm going to church this Sunday and buying more to give as Christmas gifts. Thank you, Ben, for writing this book. May your marriage and family life continue to be blessed as you continue to honor God by spreading His word and love to us!